Thanks, I can see your point. since the jqm specific css and js are loaded first, with my.css and my.js being optional follow-up, adding !important mod to my.css or css html will do the trick.
with this learning right from the beginning, I am afraid it is easier said than done, regardless of how true and right this advice is.
I have made several attempts to do the tutorial on w3 but could not grasp the knowledge to be able to later use it.
I certainly am going to go through it sooner or later, but until then, i find it worthwhile and complementary to try action.
have done a great deal of js that way so far by adapting things readily available on the net strictly to my purposes.
I have seen your personal background, watusiware. Impressive. apparently you are a different mind. that's why it may be so impossible to conceive of inability to learn a system thoroughly for reasons other than mb laziness.
thank you for your help, and words of reprimand. I will do my best to live up to your advice ;)