Please Help!!! - jQuery conflict when adding jquery.min.js

Please Help!!! - jQuery conflict when adding jquery.min.js

I have 2 separate things going on my homepage using jQuery.  One is a menu calling the following jQuery:

<script type="text/javascript" src="<?php echo get_template_directory_uri() ?>/js/my-menu.js"></script>
<script type="text/javascript" src="<?php echo get_template_directory_uri() ?>/js/jquery.easing.min.js"></script>
<script type="text/javascript" src="<?php echo get_template_directory_uri() ?>/js/jquery.lavalamp.min.js"></script>

The other is a tabbed content box feature that calls the following jQuery:

<script type="text/javascript" src="<?php echo get_template_directory_uri() ?>/js/jquery.min.js"></script>
<script type="text/javascript">
        $(function() {
            var $items = $('#vtab>ul>li');
            $items.mouseover(function() {
                $items.removeClass('selected');
                $(this).addClass('selected');

                var index = $items.index($(this));
                $('#vtab>div').hide().eq(index).show();
            }).eq(1).mouseover();
        });
    </script>

Everything works with great with the menu until I call jquery.min.js then the tabbed content box works great and the jquery for the menu is broken.  If I'm not mistaken, I cant use jquery no conflict because that only separates jquery from mootools or something like that.  So, what is the solution when jquery interferes with itself?  Please help!!