I'm having similar issues, and furthermore I'm disgusted with the lack of involvement in this so-called "community." I've looked at probably 50 post with a cumulative thousands of views and NOT A SINGLE REPLY!!
I guess I'll be the first, even if not very useful. I'm still seeking a way to more simply implement this control with fewer lines of code, because frankly the combobox demo has a completely unacceptable 174 lines of code to it. I thought jQuery was supposed to abstract away much of that and simplify implementation for the developer. The combobox control falls WAY short of this endeavor.
Cheers!