You can always take a look at the html markup for the tabs and create
a new CSS override that does what you want. I'd recommend doing this
in a new CSS file that is referenced last on the page instead of
editing any of the CSS files generated by ThemeRoller.
See the theming tab on the docs page for the class structure:
http://jqueryui.com/demos/tabs/The active tab has multiple classes you can key off for your custom
styles, the I'd write a style against "ui-tabs-selected" and "ui-tabs"
to get whatever effect you want.
BTW - if you want to style away the bg colors and borders, you can
just go to ThemeRoller and set the border color and bg color to your
page color. You can turn off the rounded corner CSS styles there too:
http://jqueryui.com/themeroller/Just make these changes and hit download.